Love is often described as a crazy force that’s hard to control. As crazy as it might be, men and women around the world dream of their own happily ever after.

This happily ever after isn’t always like the movies. After being with your partner for a while, you might notice some of the spark you felt earlier slowly slipping away. No, you’re not losing your mind. It’s normal to fluctuate within relationships, and you can’t blame your feelings for changing with you. While you can’t control your feelings, you do have full control over your actions. You can chose to create lasting fulfillment in life, love, and intimacy by making the right choices every day. Here’s how to create lasting fulfillment whether you’ve been with your partner for a month or years.

Think Positively

The first step to creating lasting fulfillment is often the hardest. It’s easy to fall into a trap of thinking negative. No matter how you feel, sometimes you just want to feel down about your situation. If you want to see a real change, you need to start with how you think. Think positively every day and the rest will follow. One of the easiest ways to improve your outlook is to think positively about your significant other. Don’t dwell on small things that annoy you and instead remember the good things that you love about your partner.

This same thought process goes for anything in your life from your family to your job. While it isn’t always possible to block out negative thoughts altogether, you can meet these thoughts with something positive. The next time you catch yourself thinking about something negative, meet it with something positive. Soon, this habit will be your new normal.

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Explore Your Boundaries

Nothing kills your excitement for life faster than too many boundaries. You might not even realize the ways you’ve limited yourself every day in your routine. Stepping outside of your comfort zone might be just what you need to spark the life in your life.

Try something new, even if it’s something small. Invite an old friend to a new restaurant in town and order something new from the menu! Go for a weekend getaway with a significant other to a new destination, even i it’s close by. You don’t have to travel far to expand your boundaries! Just think outside of the box and make small steps every day to try something new.

One the best ways to regain intimacy with your partner is to push your sexual boundaries. That doesn’t mean you have to do something you’re uncomfortable with, but it might mean having a genuine conversation with your partner about your fantasies. Add spice to the bedroom with a sexy costume from Three Wishes or try a role playing fantasy together. You might be surprised by what you discover!

Have Fun

Having fun isn’t just for kids. Once you become an adult, it’s harder to have fun like you used to. You might struggle with guilt about not spending time on more “mature” activities or not putting your responsibilities first. Everyone deserves to live a life rich with fun and excitement. Find what makes you excited and incorporate these activities into your new routine. Do you like going on walks with a friend after work? Do you like visiting a local theme park? Whatever sparks the child in you is worth pursuing!

Live a Fulfilling Life

Creating lasting fulfillment in love, life, and intimacy is not something that happens overnight. It takes time and effort on your part. You might need to reevaluate your daily routine and your own social circle to see the best way to improve your own feelings of fulfillment. While it isn’t easy, that doesn’t mean it isn’t worth it. A fulfilling life is one that’s fun, enjoyable, and exciting! No matter your definition of fulfillment, don’t be afraid to fight for it!